I have to agree about the lack of safe outlets for aggression (other than passively watching horrifically violent movies, which I'm not sure is actually an outlet) in this culture. It used to be that we let boys (or sometimes aggressive girls) "be boys," read bullies, to such an extent that we blamed their victims for being victims. But now we may have gone too far to the other extreme, making kids feel bad not only for acting out negative and angry feelins in a harmful way, but just for having them.

I just friended you, btw, just because I am a writer, forner martial artist, and live in the San Diego area. Hi.